Among the effects of working for a toxic boss is that he/she IS the boss. It will be commonly assumed, even by your coworkers who have been lucky enough to not be the target of the boss’s pathology, that he got to be the boss because he was more knowledgeable, more emotionally mature, in short better than the people under him. So people are inclined to assume that you deserved whatever beating he gave your career and your psyche.Even when you apply to other jobs, this will be assumed, and it reflects badly on you to badmouth your previous employer. Mentioning your former boss’s shortcomings makes you sound like a malcontent and troublemaker. So other people (except perhaps a very few close to you in your current job) will believe you were a substandard employee and it will be hard to get another job …. perhaps even several years later. You might even internalize all your boss’s toxicity and begin to believe that you deserve all the mean things he says and does to you. The damage done by a toxic boss can last a lifetime. Because of his mistreatment you cannot or dare not go for a job elsewhere, so you are stuck under his heel year after year in a kind of peonage until you are really sick.
DO YOU HAVE A TOXIC BOSS STORY?
We provide this forum to share the pain, find the humor, and ultimately provide support for others who might be facing the same situation.
We’re not talking about your everyday garden variety lousy manager. The work world is full of incompetent and bumbling supervisors who can’t seem to do anything worthwhile and still manage to draw a paycheck bigger than yours. Rather, we are talking about the truly toxic bosses. The kind who use destructive, intentional behaviors to serve themselves and their own agenda regardless of the wake of destruction they leave behind them. Sound familiar? If so, submit your story anonymously. And – most importantly – tell us what you did to survive it.